{"id":947,"date":"2021-01-05T11:19:32","date_gmt":"2021-01-05T11:19:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wordpressprojektas.patria.lt\/?p=947"},"modified":"2021-09-13T15:14:32","modified_gmt":"2021-09-13T15:14:32","slug":"lytiskumas-i-dalis-as-mano-kunas-meile-sau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/2021\/01\/05\/lytiskumas-i-dalis-as-mano-kunas-meile-sau\/","title":{"rendered":"Lyti\u0161kumas. I dalis. A\u0161, mano k\u016bnas, meil\u0117 sau"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">Lyti\u0161kumas yra kasdien mus lydintis procesas, m\u016bs\u0173 neatsiejama dalis, apie kuri\u0105 galima kalb\u0117ti i\u0161 \u012fvairi\u0173 pusi\u0173: vertybini\u0173, \u012fsitikinim\u0173, po\u017ei\u016brio \u012f save kaip mergin\u0105 ar vaikin\u0105, \u012f santykius su kitais \u017emon\u0117mis (draugyst\u0119, prisiri\u0161im\u0105, meil\u0119, romantinius santykius, santykius be \u012fsipareigojim\u0173, seks\u0105), sav\u0119s ir savo k\u016bno pri\u0117mim\u0105, apie save kaip kit\u0173 gyvybi\u0173 k\u016br\u0117j\u0105 ir pan. Santykio, buvimo kartu tro\u0161kimas, kartais nustelbia m\u016bs\u0173 pa\u010di\u0173 buvim\u0105 savimi, sav\u0119s supratim\u0105, meil\u0119 sau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/meile2.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-949\" width=\"640\" height=\"398\" srcset=\"https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/meile2.jpg 931w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/meile2-600x374.jpg 600w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/meile2-300x187.jpg 300w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/meile2-768x478.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Koks ar kokia esi? Kaip da\u017enai \u017ei\u016bri \u012f savo k\u016bn\u0105 ir priimi save tok\u012f, koks\/-ia esi? Kaip da\u017enai d\u017eiaugiesi savimi? O jei paklaus\u010diau, kurios tavo k\u016bno vietos yra tau pa\u010dios gra\u017eiausios? Atsakytum? Taip taip suprantu, kad savo tr\u016bkumus mes matome labai ai\u0161kiai. Bet klausiu ne to ;p Tad stabtelk ir i\u0161vardink 5 gra\u017eiausias savo k\u016bno dalis. Radai? Puiku. Gera, kad pa\u017e\u012fsti save. Neradai? Hmmm. O kuo tada savo draugui ar draugei esi gra\u017eus?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sunku? Suprantu. Kalb\u0117ti apie save, priimti save ir d\u017eiaugtis tuo yra kartais nelengva. \u017dinai, kiekvienas turim tai, kas pas mus yra gra\u017eu. Tik kartais nematom. Jei dar negalim \u012fvardinti, grei\u010diausiai m\u016bs\u0173 galva yra prikim\u0161ta kit\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 nuomon\u0117s, vertinimo, neigiamos patirties, \u017einiasklaidos stereotip\u0173, klaiding\u0173 \u012fsitikinim\u0173, kurie neleid\u017eia pamatyti tikrojo sav\u0119s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Neseniai \u017ei\u016br\u0117jau buvusios koleg\u0117s Linut\u0117s filmuk\u0105 apie kit\u0173 \u017emoni\u0173 lietim\u0105si prie m\u016bs\u0173 k\u016bno. Gal filmukas ir ma\u017eesnio am\u017eiaus vaikams, bet susim\u0105s\u010diau. O kiek mano aplinkoje yra prisilietim\u0173. Ar a\u0161 klausiu kito, kai kalb\u0117dama palie\u010diu kito pet\u012f. Kaip reaguoju, kai mane palie\u010dia? Kada man patinka? Kada ne? Tada pagalvojau apie tave. Kiek tu turi dr\u0105sos pasakyti kitam, kas tau patinka, kas ne. Kai draugas \u201cale juokaudamas\u201d padeda rank\u0105 ant kojos. Tau tinka ar ne? Arba jei darbuotojas kalb\u0117damas su tavimi deda rank\u0105 ant peties, kaip tada? Meil\u0117 sau prasideda nuo sav\u0119s supratimo, pa\u017einimo ir saugojimo. Suprastio save, savo poj\u016b\u010dius, kas tau ok, kas ne yra naudinga.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Da\u017enai pamir\u0161tam, kad pirmiausia reikia myl\u0117ti ir gerbti save. Kitas tur\u0117t\u0173 atsiklausti ar gali tave apkabinti, u\u017ed\u0117ti rank\u0105 ant pe\u010di\u0173, liemens, tuo labiau ant kr\u016btin\u0117s ar u\u017epakalio. Tu bet kada ne tik gali, bet ir turi, pasakyti, kad jau nebepatinka, nejauku. Taip gali i\u0161vengti nema\u017eai nemaloni\u0173 prisilietim\u0173 ir mokyti kit\u0105 suprasti, kas tau ok, kas ne. To nepadarius, gali likti skaud\u017ei\u0173 rand\u0173 tavo sieloje. Kai \u012fpranti pats jausti, kas kitam patinka i\u0161 tavo prisilietim\u0173, kai pa\u017e\u012fsti pats, kas malonu, kas atstumia, bendrauti su tau patinkan\u010diu \u017emogumi b\u016bna papras\u010diau. O nebendrauti su nepatinkan\u010diu irgi \ud83d\ude09 Juk keliaujant prie intymi\u0173 santyki\u0173 \u2013 apkabinim\u0173, bu\u010dini\u0173, glamoni\u0173 ar myl\u0117jimosi, kalb\u0117tis ir klausytis sav\u0119s b\u016bna dar sunkiau. O suprasti ir pa\u017einti, kad su \u017emogumi b\u016bt\u0173 gera, svarbu. Bet apie tai kitose dalyse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tad kvie\u010diu bandyti suprasti, pa\u017einti ir i\u0161girsti save. Priimti save visoki\u0105 ar visok\u012f, juk kartais mums atrodantys m\u016bs\u0173 tr\u016bkumai kitam tampa tokie gra\u017e\u016bs m\u016bs\u0173 privalumais. Kvie\u010diu b\u016bti dr\u0105siam ar dr\u0105siai pradedant save pa\u017einti. Mokytis kasdienyb\u0117je myl\u0117ti save. Nesvarbu, k\u0105 tau sak\u0117 kiti, nesvarbu kokios \u017einiasklaidos ar interneto \u017evaig\u017ed\u0117s ir kaip jos atrodo. Tu esi gra\u017eus ar gra\u017ei tokia, kokia esi. Kartais kiti ar mes patys esame per riboti, tai pamatyti. Tad nusiimk ribas nuo sav\u0119s ir d\u017eiaukis savimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u010di\u016b partneriams ir kurie r\u016bpinasi jaunuoli\u0173 saugiu lytiniu gyvenimu ir dovanoja apsaugos priemoni\u0173.\u00a0<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"359\" src=\"https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-1024x359.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2330\" srcset=\"https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-1024x359.png 1024w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-600x211.png 600w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-300x105.png 300w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-768x270.png 768w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-1536x539.png 1536w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-2048x719.png 2048w, https:\/\/patria.lt\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/Active-citizens-fund@4x-18x6.png 18w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Lyti\u0161kumas yra kasdien mus lydintis procesas, m\u016bs\u0173 neatsiejama dalis, apie kuri\u0105 galima kalb\u0117ti i\u0161 \u012fvairi\u0173 pusi\u0173: vertybini\u0173, \u012fsitikinim\u0173, po\u017ei\u016brio \u012f save kaip mergin\u0105 ar vaikin\u0105, \u012f santykius su kitais \u017emon\u0117mis (draugyst\u0119, prisiri\u0161im\u0105, meil\u0119, romantinius santykius, santykius be \u012fsipareigojim\u0173, seks\u0105), sav\u0119s ir savo k\u016bno pri\u0117mim\u0105, apie save kaip kit\u0173 gyvybi\u0173 k\u016br\u0117j\u0105 ir pan. Santykio, buvimo kartu [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":949,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"give_campaign_id":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[12,41,9,47],"class_list":["post-947","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-be-kategorijos","tag-ac-patria","tag-ikvepimas","tag-kaunas","tag-meile","entry","has-media","owp-thumbs-layout-horizontal","owp-btn-normal","owp-tabs-layout-horizontal","has-no-thumbnails","has-product-nav"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/947","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=947"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/947\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2332,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/947\/revisions\/2332"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/949"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=947"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=947"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patria.lt\/lt_lt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=947"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}